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Don’t Ever Say “I Know How You Feel”
Unless you have experienced it yourself
I can’t remember the exact date, but it was in the year 2010. I was in ninth grade. I remember hearing the news and didn’t know what to say or do.
My English lesson’s friend’s father had died from a car accident that just happened at midnight the night before. It was one of those moments when you felt like the clock just suddenly stopped ticking. Not because I was insanely sad for her. More because I was expecting her to come to the lesson that day and when I heard the news, I didn’t know what to do. I just froze.
It happened on a Friday. My English lesson’s class was held on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. I remember thinking that my friend must have been so crushed by what happened to her father that she wouldn’t attend the class for days or even weeks. She was there on Monday. I just looked at her confused and didn’t say anything.
At the time I was wondering, what exactly would it feel like if that happened to my father?
Not that I wish it would happen. I just wonder what it’d feel like. Cause when I heard the news, I felt nothing. My brain just told me, “Oh she must have been so sad. I can’t imagine being in her position.” And I truly can’t. I know it must be sad but I don’t know how sad and what kind of sadness…
